There is a belief associated with happiness in one’s life: that it (happiness) is attainable through seeking validation from others. While this concept holds some truth, I still believe that it is important to practice self-love as well. There are so many topics that interweave with this idea of happiness and seeking it externally rather than seeking it from within. I wasn’t going to write about this topic, but I saw a tweet that motivated me to do so.
The woman who chooses the best relationships is the woman who learns first how to be happy when she’s single.
— Matthew Hussey (@matthewhussey) February 26, 2016
First of all, everyone should check out Matthew Hussey on YouTube. He’s a life coach and a relationship guru, and I respect his opinions. Matthew has a point. When we seek validation from others first, we fail to validate ourselves. Matthew is a big believer on how a lack of self-acceptance or self-love can reflect on other parts of the individual’s life.
Yet, the main message would be to practice more self-love. Trust me, I’m not sitting on my “high horse” when I speak about self-love. I believe self-love is something that an individual spends a lifetime working on. There are days when we feel good about ourselves, and there are days when we wish we could make changes in our lives. This is normal, but letting the negative days consume one’s life prevents one from ever finding a common ground. The question isn’t How do I become happy? but rather, How do I practice self-acceptance and find validation from within? Finding validation from within ultimately gives a person more happiness and self-love vs. seeking validation from others. Something I do to help practice this concept would be going on walks. While a walk may seem more exercise based, I always reflect on my life and think about the things I’m content with. To me, this is practicing self-love and self-acceptance. Another thing that might sound random would be jamming out to Disney songs. I’m always in a good mood after a good Disney jam session. Solitude (in small time spans) can be a good way to practice self-acceptance because it shows that one is comfortable on their own.
My two takeaways from what Matthew is saying are the following:
- Be happy on your own: Self-love is not an overnight thing, yet it is important to still practice it.
- Being comfortable on your own ultimately fosters a good, healthy relationship: Enjoy your independence and allow for your self-acceptance to help you grow as a person.
The world needs YOUR unique stamp. Not a copy of how you think you should be. Accept the best and worst sides of yourself. Own them.
— Matthew Hussey (@matthewhussey) May 19, 2016
These are just some of my thoughts, and I don’t expect people to agree with me 100%. If anything, I hope this blog post encourages more self-love. I hope to have another post up soon, and I hope everyone is having a good week! Thank you.